Other than the above, he’ll do for a few years yet (well, until Hugh).
But, dear readers, I have a confession: we do not sleep together.
Yes, you read that correctly. We’ve been together for a decade and have a cute kid. But sleeping together just isn’t our bag.
And, to clarify, I’m not talking about the sleeping together that involves rudie-nudie stuff. I’m referring to the act of literally sleeping together – entwined limbs, dead arms, and lying so close as to breathe each other’s putrid morning rat-breath in and out.
No, thank you very much!
You see, Mr POW and I are actually very compatible sleepers: neither of us likes connecting our body parts. No toes touching. No leg throws. No hand-holding. No chest pillows.
Even in our relationship’s early days, our bedtime ritual was a quick hand-squeeze, a kiss goodnight, and then we rolled over to our separate side of the bed until morning light. (I did try nestling in the crook of his arm once but, quite frankly, it was uncomfortable, hot, and I was scared of dribbling on him.)
When we were married, we celebrated by purchasing a king-sized bed with a divider built into the mattress to avoid feeling the other’s night-time rolls and movements…our own personal slumber bubbles, if you may.
It’s so romantic, isn’t it?!
We also work better for no touching because of our blanket wars. He doesn’t understand why I need the available bed linen layers on me (it’s true; even in Summer*), while he has some freakishly high core body temperature that means he NEVER even needs a sheet over him.
* I think this is more of a female thing. Because, you know, if a murderer came in and tried to stab you in bed, the sheet and blanket barrier would totally save your life. Word.
While our somewhat separate sleep habits aren’t for every couple, it certainly works for us. However, no amount of mattress-dividing can aid sleep in times of wall-shaking snoring (thank you, cheap wine), but that’s a whole other topic.
Are you and your partner sleep entanglers, or do you both prefer personal space, too?